How do I deal with a gender identity problem? I look very masculine yet I don't like being seen that way.?

I'm sorry you're uneasy about this. I know it probably doesn't help, but we all come in different shapes and sizes. Although the physical appearance is what people see first, you have ample opportunity to be the petite caring and delicate individual you are inside. The girls who ume you are some big burly man's man probably aren't giving you the chance to show who you really are and therefore aren't worth the time of trying to prove you're not. Just be yourself and although it may be hard, learn to love yourself for who you are. As far as exercising goes, you don't have to go to the gym and lift mive weights etc., but maybe some laps in the pool, a brisk pace on a treadmill or around your neighborhood, or pilates which stretches your muscles while toning them so you don't look bulky may help. But most importantly just love yourself and the peole around you and you'll eventually attract the girls you're looking for.